Friday, March 12, 2010

Where has it gone?

Where has what gone you may ask?

Something known as "common courtesy". If you don't know what that is, then my point is proven: common courtesy isn't very common anymore. It refers to your etiquette, minding your Ps and Qs, and treating other people politely. But, increasingly I see this thing called courtesy becoming more and more uncommon.

A very common scenario: What do you do as you push open a door to enter or exit a building? As a lot of people are wont to do, they push open the door, walk through it, and let go of it - and in the process, smashing the swinging door right in the face of the poor soul who happens to be walking right behind them. How hard is it to just have a quick look behind you as you're opening the door, and if you see someone approaching, to hold the door open for them? It costs you nothing, and in return you may even get a thank you and a smile that's sure to warm you right up.

Another example, what do you do when someone kindly signals to you that they are giving you way to turn out from a junction? Increasingly, people just drive on without even so much as a glance at the person who offered the kind deed. Would it be so hard to just lift your hand and smile at the person for being so thoughtful as a means of thanks before driving off? I think not. If it hadn't been for him, you'd still be stuck where you were hoping for some break in the never-ending traffic.

I could go on but I think you can think of more examples yourself. I don't think any of us would like to live in a world where being polite and courteous had ceased to exist. That's why we need to

rock the boat
buck the trend
stop the rot.

Educate our young people on how to be polite and courteous. Don't just tell them, show them. After all, it's often said that action speaks louder than words.


Nick Phillips said...

People these days don't know what polite or common courtesy means even if it came up and bit them on their behinds.

PengPeng彬彬 said...

the problem perry, is that you've been overseas. a lot of other people haven't.

but sadly, people in the UK are slowly losing the common courtesy as well...losing sight for what's right and what's sickly wrong...

quite horrifying in some cases to be honest. I blame it on gaming...

ALTing said...

about this common courtesy thingy kan... a lot of these people's mentality especially the younger ones are like this: If I be nice, who's gonna be nice to me? If I help someone, who's gonna help me?

That's the problem there. There must be a benefit in return for them. If there is none, than forget about it. "Teda untung punya karja" they say. If some has been nice to them, they'll just say "Bah bagus la bah. Nasib juga tu urang bagus sama sia."

For them, it's your business if you wanna be nice to them or not, but don't expect them to be nice, polite nor courteous to anyone.. because it's none of your bloody business.

That's my observation after working with teens and young adults for the past few years.